Home

Crowdfunding Countercurrents

CC Archive

Submission Policy

Join News Letter

Defend Indian Constitution

#SaveVizhinjam

CounterSolutions

CounterImages

CounterVideos

CC Youtube Channel

India Burning

Mumbai Terror

Iraq

Peak Oil

Globalisation

Localism

Climate Change

US Imperialism

Palestine

Communalism

Dalit

Humanrights

Economy

India-pakistan

Kashmir

Book Review

Gujarat Pogrom

Kandhamal Violence

Arts/Culture

Archives

About Us

Popularise CC

Disclaimer

Fair Use Notice

Contact Us

Subscribe To Our
News Letter

Name


E-mail:



Search Our Archive



Our Site

Web

 

 

 

 

In A Pornified Culture, Even 'Smashing Patriarchy' Is A Fetish

By Mickey Z.

29 March, 2016
World News Trust

Photo credit: Mickey Z.

“Nobody in the world, nobody in history, has ever gotten their freedom by appealing to the moral sense of the people who were oppressing them.”

I’ve always appreciated this quote from Assata Shakur and felt it to be ironclad radical truth. Then I woke up to the insidious reality of patriarchy. After too many years dick-footing around, I finally recognized male pattern violence for what it is: the worst problem in the world.

Of course, there’s no shortage of fierce and wise women relentlessly fighting back against sex-based oppression, exploitation, and violence. But, thanks to pornography -- the propaganda wing of male supremacy -- everything women do is fetishized, eroticized and commodified. When gonzo porn passes for sex education, anything can and will be perceived (often by both sexes) as “hot.” Even smashing patriarchy.

Let’s say a woman decides to subvert imposed gender norms by not shaving her body hair. Well, legions of men dig that “fetish,” too. Google a certain mix of related words and you’ll get about 27,500,000 results (in 0.59 seconds). After all, in a porncentric patriarchy, the only logical reason a woman would ever grow her underarm, leg, and pubic hair would be to seduce, arouse, and please every single man she encounters.

What if other women opted to reject the frailty myth by working out, developing their muscles, or excelling at a tough sport like Mixed Martial Arts? *deep sigh* Yeah, there are porn categories for all those, too. Just like there’s an abundance of porn videos exploiting other versions of the “powerful woman” trope (soldiers, CEOs, cops, prison guards, wealthy widows, the boss’s daughter, etc.) and these videos typically involve such women being brutally “put back in their place.” Why else would any woman “fight the power” if she wasn’t seeking male attention?

Let’s face it, even if a woman feels ZERO sexual attraction to the entire male sex or consciously opts to avoid any intimate contact with any men, well, “lesbians” is the most popular porn genre of all. Again, within a phallocentric culture, a depiction of two women making love is always designed for the viewing “pleasure” of the male population of Planet Earth.

I could go on but since I’m already concerned this article will be considered “hot” by some creeps, please allow me to introduce perhaps the cruelest patriarchal reversal of all: Feminism has been fetishized, as pornographers offer their predatory audiences the big prize of getting the revenge they're all taught to dream of. Scan Tumblr, if you can stomach it, and you’ll find endless mock feminist “re-education” or “reclamation” posts, designed to give the impression that the men in these particularly extreme and violent clips are “freeing” or “curing” women from their feminist tendencies. Cue the dude-bro voice: “She’s a feminist? That’s hot.”

Question: Unless women were to unexpectedly seize control of all military and economic power in the world, how can feminism (as currently defined) lead to systemic liberation?

Which brings me back to Assata and her infamous quotation.

If males as a class oppressing females as a class is the foundational cause of all violence, oppression, and hierarchy -- and EVERYTHING females do has been weaponized and used against them, how can women address this situation if not by “appealing to the moral sense” of “the people who were oppressing them”? If all forms of rebellion are rapidly corrupted into masturbatory fodder for each new generation of porn-addicted boys and men, what chance does this culture have for drastic and sustainable social change if men themselves don’t step up?

Come to think of it, perhaps this is the cruelest irony of all: Must the frontline soldiers in the struggle for women’s liberation be men?

Abolish Gender

In 99.9 percent of activist realms, personal choices do nothing to provoke institutional change. But male supremacy -- the big problem, the one at the root of it all -- can and will be challenged every single time an individual male rejects his patriarchal programming. With that in mind, I’d like to re-visit my list of 10 radically simple ways men can appeal to their own moral sense and get started right now:

1.Don’t rape and don’t be a rape apologist (99.8 percent of those in prison for rape in the United States are men and 0 percent of these rapists committed their atrocity because the victim was “asking for it”).

2.Don’t murder women (or men or children or, basically, everyone).

3.Don’t be a pedophile.

4.Don’t physically or emotionally assault your domestic partner.

5.Don’t jerk off to pornography; don’t let boys have access to pornography.

6.Don’t be a john; don’t accept the postmodern mantras about prostituted women/girls and “choice,” and don’t eroticize pain, fear, and shame via BDSM and “kink.”

7.Don’t tell misogynist jokes or use misogynist language or allow other men to do so in your presence.

8.Don’t harass, cat call, stare (“male gaze”), mansplain, or manspread.

9.Don’t ever say “not all men” and don’t engage in patriarchal reversals.

10.Don’t penetrate female-only safe spaces.

Bonus entry: Don’t be too proud of yourself for adhering to these basic guidelines, because they are the very least any man can do to challenge prescribed gender roles.

I repeat: This. Is. The. Absolute. Least. We. Can. Do.

Since we now have some don’ts to follow, here are a few things we can do:

•Listen to, validate, respect, appreciate, trust, defend, and learn from females.

•Discover how to be silent, how to relinquish the spotlight, the stage, the microphone, the platform.

•Do the work to educate ourselves and learn to recognize the deeper connections, the roots.

•Commit to addressing and surrendering all the socialization and privilege that automatically comes along with being born male.

Reject the masculinity paradigm and stop conforming to macho ideals and conditioning.

•Identify. Unlearn. Evolve. (Each day, every day.)

•Share what you learn with boys and young men to give them a real chance to be better.

Most of all, we must openly and relentlessly name the problem: US. We are the problem. Men are the problem. Patriarchy, male supremacy, male pattern violence, misogyny -- and all the institutional structures created to maintain and obscure this necrophilic system.

If we men want to live up to self-anointed labels like activist, revolutionary, radical, ally, and comrade, the path is clear. We are required to do almost all of the initial work and make (by far) the biggest changes and commitments. If we care about justice and liberation as much as we claim we do, now is the time to look in the mirror, to call ourselves out, to check our egos and our masculinity programming at the door, and to make what appear to be major sacrifices (pro tip: they’re not).

One more time: We men must name the problem, over and over again, until we stop being the problem and stop passing on the problem to the next generation.

Contrary to Assata’s otherwise inspiring quote, the first step towards challenging patriarchy (without it becoming yet another profitable avenue for male gratification) just may be for the oppressors to make a moral choice and smash it from within.

Mickey Z. can be found here.




 



 

Share on Tumblr

 

 


Comments are moderated