Our
Son's Life Wasted,
We Are Leaving
By Severin Carrell
22 March 2004
The Independent
Ann Lawrence and her husband George are planning to emigrate. Almost
exactly a year ago, they lost their only son during the Iraq war. They
believe they have now given Britain enough.
Marc Lawrence died
on 22 March - two days after the invasion began - one of six Royal Navy
officers and an American killed when their two Sea King helicopters
crashed head-on, in bitterly contested circumstances.
Since then the Lawrences'
grief has hardened into anger, and their dreams of eventually retiring
to southern France have become concrete plans. They are now convinced
that Marc's life was wasted on an "unjust" war - and have
accused Tony Blair of doing so in writing.
In a forceful letter
to the Prime Minister, written 16 days after they buried their 26-year-old
son, a lieutenant, in June last year, the Lawrences blamed Mr Blair
directly for his death. Their letter stung Mr Blair into a two-page
response in which he sought to justify the war.
The Lawrences wrote:
"Our son had a bright future. The choice you made has eliminated
this future and that of other victims of your war. [The] overthrow of
the Iraqi regime was a good thing, but the means by which you brought
this about were at best questionable and at worst dishonest."
Writing on Sunday
20 July, Mr Blair was under the greatest stress of his political career.
It was three days after the suicide of Dr David Kelly, the biological
weapons expert who was outed by the Government as the source of a BBC
story on the Government's Iraqi arms dossier.
And his hand-written
letter, released by the family to The Independent on Sunday, offers
an unusually intimate insight into the Prime Minister's thinking.
He admitted immediately
"there is little I can say to mitigate your grief or anguish",
and, referring to the furore surrounding Dr Kelly's death, said the
"current public debate must make things worse".
But he insisted
the coalition would find definitive proof that Iraq possessed chemical
and biological weapons. "Your son made a sacrifice which, in time,
will be recognised as being made to defeat the criminal threat to our
security in the modern world," he wrote.
The Lawrences profoundly
disagree. Their trauma has been worsened by the collapse of the Government's
case for war, by the 73 days it took before they found his body on the
seabed, and, more recently, by serious doubts about the true cause of
Marc's death.
Earlier this year,
The Independent on Sunday revealed that an official board of inquiry
into the crash had found potentially fatal shortcomings in the equipment
fitted to the Sea Kings and the operational rules in force that night.
But, to the couple's disquiet, senior Navy officers and the armed forces
minister, Adam Ingram, have suggested the crew were to blame. Under
official flying rules, pilots are responsible for their own safety.
The Lawrences' anguish
will be intensified tomorrow - the first anniversary of the Sea King
crash. The couple will be in Portsmouth for a private memorial service
to the seven officers who died.
Mr Blair's distress
at their grief has not impressed them. "Would it have been any
different if he had been run over on his motorbike?" said Mrs Lawrence.
"It was an accident that shouldn't have happened and a war that
was unjust."
The Lawrences are
convinced the war is about Iraqi and Middle Eastern oil reserves, not
democracy. "There are other regimes which are just as terrible
in this world, but we're not so worried about them. Presumably because
they've not got oil," said Mrs Lawrence. Mr Lawrence, speaking
at the couple's home in the small Kent town of Westgate on Sea, added:
"Blair and Bush are two mischievous boys taking sticks and disturbing
an ants' nest, and the ants are going to fight back."
Ultimately, however,
the couple have decided to emigrate. "We want to get out. We'd
already planned to buy a house in France. Marc wanted us to do that,"
said Mrs Lawrence. "I can't stay here. They've had too much from
us. I don't want to give anything else to this country. I'm a nurse,
my husband a fireman and my daughter a teacher, but I want to contribute
nothing else. This country is corrupt and it starts at the top."